Tease and dating
So clearly distinguishing between them can be confusing, or downright tricky.But psychologically—and even morally—they can be worlds apart.She cordially invited him in to chat, and he reluctantly accepted—but with considerable ambivalence for fear he’d accidentally betray the powerful magnetic pull he experienced toward her (any expression of which felt tantamount to betraying his closest friend). This might include banter; flattery about the other’s physical or sexual attractiveness; imitating the other’s behaviors (changing postures as they change theirs); eye contact more prolonged than would appear to fit the situation; batting eyelashes; blowing kisses; playing with one’s hair; winking; suggestive smiling; giggling or appreciative laughter; conspicuous physical closeness; casual touching (especially the other person’s arm); some form of foot play (or “footsie”); online chats, texting, and other personally direct messaging that clearly expresses affectional interest; and so on. ) in letting another know of their affectionate/erotic interest.When he offhandedly mentioned the errant button (unconscious flirtatiousness on his part?! And this example reveals something of the peculiarly human and strangely mixed, or ironic, nature of flirting generally. greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette. But where cock teasing contrasts sharply with flirtatiousness is in its intent. For the motive is to toy with, taunt, “bait,” or exploit the person teased, so it deserves to be seen as an act veering on hostility.Regardless of how conscious the cock teaser may be of it, the behavior is still best understood as a power play, unfairly taking advantage of the typical male's susceptibility to even the mildest of sexual advances.And it might even be seen as cruel in its deceptiveness and insensitivity toward their feelings.Yet in their underlying attitude, motive and intent they differ enormously.
In a sense, flirting and cock teasing can be seen as kindred forms of teasing.Neither flirting, nor teasing is exclusive to one gender.I have seen both sexes engage in both behaviours with members of the opposite sex.Additionally, if you'd like to check out some of my other writings for I find it both unfortunate and rather offensive that this article focuses so specifically on gender.Cock tease is offensive and derogatory to women (even with the acknowledgement than straight men might engage in the behaviour with gay men).